Being friends with professors and superiors has its advantages, and in some cases it can be entirely appropriate. There are, however, certain lines that I feel should not be crossed when it comes to the level of friendliness of student-professor or student-superior relationships.
Having close relationships with professors and superiors can help or hinder performance in the classroom or professional environment. For instance, there are certain professors I have close relationships with whose classes I tend to spend more time on than others. Looking up to a superior inspires me to perform well. On the other hand, having too close of a relationship with a superior can cause one to not take their instruction seriously.
On a slightly different but somewhat related note, I feel as if there are certain topics in both student-professor and student-superior relationships that should be approached with caution, if at all.
It might be completely acceptable for some students to discuss marriage or romantic relationships and their problems with their boss or professor. Personally, however, I would not feel comfortable with a professor or superior inquiring about the romantic relationship between my fiancé and me. There are, however, plenty of instances I would find appropriate to seek marriage guidance or counseling from a professor or superior if the relationship is close and the student approaches the subject first. There are many Bible professors and counselors at Oklahoma Christian University who this often becomes part of their job title and is valued by their students.
Another subject that should be approached cautiously is money. Some people are very comfortable disclosing their personal financial information, but for many, this can be a topic that demands privacy. While it is natural for professors and superiors to want their students and advisees to succeed and do well in their professional endeavors, pay and salary is not something every student or employee will be comfortable disclosing.
One issue I have noticed related to this is the amateurish behavior of young people in the workplace. Respectful relationships are not being maintained between our generation and that of our elders and this, in my opinion, is a serious problem.
I think there are wonderful things to be said about building relationships with those who have shaped you and helped you succeed. But I do think it is necessary that these relationships be kept positive, professional and comfortable for all parties involved.
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